STICKS AND STONES WILL BREAK MY BONES BUT WORDS WILL NEVER HURT M- yesssss they damn will if you don’t have a cement hard relationship with yourself! .
Once upon a time my self worth was so fragile that it was dependant on others opinions.
One day I would be feeling on top of the world after receiving a compliment from a stranger, and the next I would be in a pit of despair after someone said something that hurt my feelings.
Eeeeeep. Looking back on this is was SO SAD.
I actually remember one specific comment from a boss of mine that broke me…
This boss was one of the most successful people I knew. I looked up to them. I respected them. I trusted them (to an extent).
I decided to open up about my curiosity in studying at university. Perhaps PR & Journalism?
She turned around with a face of doubt and embarrassment.
“Honey, you can hardly speak English let alone go into that field” she laughed.
MY HEART LITERALLY BROKE.
The thoughts going through my head were:
😰This successful person doesn’t think I can be successful so they must be right
😟Wtf? Me no speakeh da goodeh English? Me never knew dis?
😔I will never amount to anything
Why did I feel this way?
Because I had a low self esteem. I had no trust, worth, or belief in myself.
My inner confidence is unbreakable. But that didn’t happen overnight. I set it as a priority to build myself the fuck up FROM THE INSIDE. And now I have these foundations cemented in there ready for whatever comments people throw my way.
I see that boss’s opinion was literally IRRELEVANT AND FALSE.
LOOK AT ME NOW LUV. I’ve started multiple successful businesses and I writeh witheh theh englisheh everydayeh on my thriving blog.
So basically I’m trying to say, SAYING the sticks and stones quote WILL NOT MAKE HARSH WORDS LESS PAINFUL. However, building up resilience and mastering your relationship with yourself, will.